My 14 year old son begged me not to force him to join in one of the school activities that his teacher and grandmother asked him to participate. He was on the verge of desperation, as if I am the last person who would save him that whatever my decision would be, he has no choice, but to follow it.
I appreciated that, despite our long distance situation, I am still in the picture that he still comes to me not only in times of delight, but more importantly in his needs of someone to understand him. Back to the story, I asked him a lot of questions regarding his issue, to be honest there was nothing wrong about it, I might convince him too to participate, but I chose not.
I told him I would not force him to do what he doesn’t like as long as it will not affect his grades and performance at school. I will respect his decision as much as possible too. He was relieved, then calls me the best mom ever.
What struck me most was the last message he sent me before saying goodbye, he said, “It was right that children should respect their Parents, but Parents should respect their children too.”
Wow. I stopped for a while. He was aware now that RESPECT is a too way street.
Yes, it is a challenge for me to step back a little while staying connected to this grown-up kid because I know one day he will be determined to live his life in his own way and, probably I will be needing more understanding too that “we are alike, not in personality or character, but as a person.”
He was seven years old in this picture, never thought he would grew so fast.
That’s pretty cool. However, if we said that to our parents (during our childhood years, of course), we’ll expect a belt on our butts. Hehehe!
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Hahaha. Correct!
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Sometimes we really have to step back and evaluate if we are doing the right thing to our kids or we’re just stressing them out
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Certainly. I allowed him to put his card in front of me and compromise about certain things. At least he would not complain that he hasn’t been heard. 🙂
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this is one thing we parents conveniently forget… respecting our childrens wishe… we want them tobe like us
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True. Sometimes we enjoy our power of controlling and we tend to forgot what they really wish to do. 🙂
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very true… and it happens often.. so we need to consistently remind ourselves and not cross the thin line between guiding and forcing..
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Totally agree with you 🙂
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He’s lucky to have such a good mom! 😀
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Thank you 🙂
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Hihihi bilis ng panahon….
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As in ang bilis parang kailan lang. 🙂
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Nakakainggit. Gusto ko na din magkaanak hahahaha
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Go na! what are you waiting for? haha
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Wahahahaha….masakit manganak lol…
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One time lang naman. hahaaha.
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Wahahahhahaha
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Believe me when I say you’ll blink and he’ll be an adult. It goes by too fast.
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Oh, I’m not ready yet. haha 🙂
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