They said grandparents have the tendency to spoil their grandchildren, their love becomes twice and they will love you more than anyone else. But for my Lola (grandmother), she does the opposite and has her own ways of showing her love by imposing strict discipline.
She taught me how to pray, not my mom, but her. We prayed the holy rosary every night and sometimes at dawn which I really hated. There was no Sunday too that we didn’t go to church, whether you like it or not.
It was a struggle also that I am not allowed to wake up after 6:00 am. She gave me the responsibility to prepare for breakfast, clean the house, do the laundry and water the plants.
I can have friends, but they were not allowed to visit at home without her permission. She has to check first their background before saying yes, and of course no boys obviously.
I had all these memories when I live with her for more than a year and during summer vacations.
My Lola was a woman of discipline because she was raised and influenced by Spanish upbringing which we called Kastila style. She has dominating character and very authoritarian. More over, my grandfather was intimated with her intellectual and cleverness, even her five children feared her to the most.
But I know, despite, she has the greatest love for all. She always thinks of her children’s wellness. She worked hard to support their education and chased them to graduate. She always reminded them to live a decent life and be released from poverty. Simply she doesn’t want the children to be like her; unschooled and deprived.
When my Lola died, everyone was settled and lead a good life. They even bought her a house which she really desired. When she got sick and became more grumpy due to her goiter illness, still everyone braced her not for the reason they were afraid, but because she was a good mother.
I think I am her favorite granddaughter because she always appears in my dreams. She still there asking me to clean her house, water the plants and for no reason, lectured me which I rarely remember why.
Today is my Lola’s birthday. May she has the happiest party in heaven.
She was awarded “A MODEL MOTHER OF THE YEAR 1997” in the town of Bacuag Surigao Del Norte. A lifetime achievement, perhaps, one in a million mothers could achieve. – VJE