My heart was broken when I have learned that one of my friend’s son is having trouble with himself. Aside from being shy and a loner, his grades are perfectly great. He is too surrounded by his family’s love and support. No one ever noticed of his struggles, even my friend never realized how bad the situation is, not until she found some scars left on his wrist. The thing is he suffered as a victim of bullying and we knew absolutely the aftermath of it.
She was devastated while confronting him and by knowing the truth, he is feeling unwanted at home and incompetent at school makes her heart baffled the most. Where did we go wrong? She asked. I know as a Parent, that when something’s bad going on with our kids, we always ask and blame ourselves, for any reason, that’s what we are.
As a friend, I can tell her any possible ways to find the solution to his battle, as a Parent, I cried with her. I always believe that no matter how much we love our kids, nurture them, give almost everything they needed, but some end of the day, it wasn’t just all enough.
No matter how much we criticise ourselves by raising them, every decision is always up to them. It’s their life, yes, but we need to try hard enough to fill whatever the missing holes they are coping. We need to be open to them and encourage them to be open to us. Help them to realize that life is a vast road with lots of ruts, but then, we can always be there; to guide, to support, to understand, to share the burden until they can finally hold to themselves and be able to stand amidst of their own troubles.
Life is wonderful and our kids should live with it.
“love the life you live.
live the life you love.”