I wasn’t surprised, but not expecting.

This is what I have felt when my son informed and asked my permission to get a girlfriend.  I know he’s going there in this kind of relationship, not that I can hide him in the box forever or forbid him to like or fall in love with someone. I know he is growing up and there is nothing wrong to want him to experience the beauty of being a youth.

Surprisingly, I didn’t feel distressed. As I have thought before that I would cry and feel jealous; I think all mothers can relate to this, but I was so excited that I have informed anyone of my friends about it.  I slightly checked the girl’s Facebook account, but not prying. I was just curious how does she look. (ok, ok, I am prying)

What I like about the news was his openness to me.  He said he doesn’t want to keep it a secret from me, that I have the right to know. As his mother, I am proud of him and I feel appreciated.

Surely, I didn’t go to school to learn how to become a good Parent. I have so many failing too, and never been there all the time to see him grow, but, one thing I have established a kind of relationship to my son is TRUST, that he can trust me and I can him too, that he can share anything he wants to me and I will try to be open-minded for any possibilities.

As a single Parent, I am doing the part of as his mom and dad, believe it when I say I have tried to lecture him about safe sex. You can’t imagine his funny yucky face while listening to me and trying to stop the subject.

Well, the girlfriend thing was just two months ago, and the latest update is, they broke up. Well, young love, sweet love. Let them enjoy!


  1. sounds like you know so much about balance and how parenting is humbling and not about perfection – realistically we want exactly what you noted – the trust – and to develop support systems –

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