TYPES OF FRIENDS I CAME ACROSS

 

I believe that Friends just kind of happen. Life without them would definitely be boring. There are few special friendships last a lifetime, some, unfortunately, take years to fade away while others end dramatically. It’s an interesting process in life, right? whether we like it or not, we have come to realize which friendship deserve nurture and which are a drag.

So what kinds of friends I came across until this moment? here’s my list.

The Parent figure – Just like our Parent, this person is refined when it comes to being truthful and honest. They can tell you directly anything under the sun, and therefore you can always rely on them to seek good advice.

Friends who are up for anything – This is a bunch of friends who are always willing to try anything out of their comfort zone. They are always available to be dragged on.

The funny one – A friend who does silly things, they have a talent for quick and witty jokes. The one will have you laughing until you are crying with laughter.

The emotional one – They are expressive and very open about their feelings. They are the ones who will cry first before you do.

The friend that’s always “on the way” – A friend who is always late and never apologize for it. The reason why you have to schedule the time earlier than the expected.

Friends who are loyal –  The hardest one to find. A nonjudgmental friend who will accept you no matter what. They don’t care about your reputation or any mistakes, you have made. They know all of your deepest and darkest secrets, but still, love you all the same.

Brutally Friend – They are the ones who speak with their minds, not in a sarcastic way. They tend to be honest about what they feel and think of you.

The BFF – I believe that this is someone I choose to be my second family. The Friendships of the good is based on respect, appreciation, honesty, acceptance and genuine love.

 

Friends who make the effort – A friend who would always make an effort and offer their time to meet, to talk and bond.  They usually remind us that friendship should not be forgotten, but to be nurtured.

The strong one – Someone who is not good to argue and fight with, they will not leave you behind without getting any what they want. In good side, they are the one who will fight for you and go with you in a battle.

Sullen Friend – They are the ones who are grumpy, sulky, gloomy, sour, or moody.  In short, they bring negativity.

I know everything – This is an arrogant attitude which is simply annoying. A friend who would think everything he/she thinks are right and will always insist on it.  They are the ones who don’t compromise with their beliefs and know everything except themselves.

The High Level – A friend who thinks he/she is greater than any friend he/she has. They hate to be criticized, they don’t want to hear someone saying anything bad about them.  They condemn disapproval.  They always wanted to be the center of the attention.

I don’t care – The cool ones I believed. They just follow the flows without complaining, they don’t care if you hated them then love them again. They don’t like dramas so they either ignore you or talk to you directly, then forget the issue.

The happy ones – The kind of friend we will love most I believed.  They are the ones who change the gloomy side to positivity.  They will drag you up and let you see the brighter side.

There are so many kinds of friends I have met, I think I forgot to include some on the list. Most of these friends I came across are still with me and a few of them left from my life for good. It is really true that true friendship is hard to find and develop.

As they say “a friend will tell you what you want to hear, but a good friend will always tell you what you need to hear”

So let’s say thank you to our friends who bring our life into happiness and bid a happy goodbye who lose their way with us.

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FUCKING NARCISSIST

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Are you a narcissist magnet?

Nine years ago, I had a colleague that was pretty sure a Narcissist. Yes, she was the Assistant Manager,  a goal-oriented person, but with no concern for others. She was a control freak, manipulative, a finger pointer, exaggerated, always demanding special treatment, respect, and privileges. She was on the power trip. She has often targeted one person at a time until he/she quits, then employees turn over rates became high in that company.

This narcissist created a traumatic environment in the workplace and degrading the other employee’s capabilities. I recalled one of our employees having a gas and bloating problem and sleeplessness nights because of the stress she experiences every day. Another one, who always scolded because she was pregnant and tends to eat a lot in the office. These people are just one of the examples who quits their job because they cannot handle the narcissist anymore.

For five years working with this kind of person, I have experienced to be feeling frustrated and angry, but became stronger and a fighter. How did I deal with her after years of adjustment?

I complained about her to the big boss. I just make sure he knows what’s going on.

When she tried to pick on me, I never cried in front of her, that never happened. Don’t let the narcissist see your weakness because they feed on and controls these types of responses.

I don’t take her personally, though it was really hard sometimes. When she commented negatively about me, I always convince myself that there’s nothing wrong with me at all.

Always be professional. I tried to compose myself every time we had a fight because I believe I am more normal than her. I believe, the narcissist usually zeros in on people who are performing better than them at work.

Never ignore the narcissist.  This seems opposite from what some people told to just ignore them and don’t react if they are abusive. They’ll move on to another target; Well, I  I argued with her if necessary. Maybe because I can’t stand to be abused.

I never expected her to be my friend, so I didn’t buy her drama when she shows empathy or compassion.

Get everything in writing. This was my defense when the narcissist asked me to do something verbally, especially if it’s a major task.

I never give personal information or opinions to the narcissist about myself and others.

To be honest, narcissists are not pleasant to deal with, no matter how much you tried,  they are still highly conceited as if it is part of their system.  To avoid long headaches and stress in dealing with them, find alternative solutions for your own comfort. Goodluck.

BE FEARLESS TO BE CARELESS

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Once in a while, be fearless to be careless.

The less you care, the lesser your heart struggle.

Don’t spend too much of holding on to something that you knew it will never be yours.

Don’t let your heart be hustled of those feelings that are unsure.

Careless about those people who have no time to compromise their thoughts for you.

Careless about why someone is smarter than you.

Careless why it didn’t work out.

Let your heart skip a little beat and find your resting place.

Careless about the judgment of people. They’re going to judge you no matter what you do.

Careless about others’ business. Mind your own.

Careless if you have no special talent.

Careless about how horrible your boss is.

Careless about some rules, they are meant to break.

Be careless in your rambling thoughts, that’s how you feel.

Be wise enough to be fearless while being careless, we cannot do this every day in our life.  Be control because, at the end of the day, you are still the one responsible for your own feelings.

Be careless if you give your heart and they return it in pieces.

The less you give a damn, the happier you will be.

Don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle. Try to keep it under your hat.

COLOR ME

Coloring allows me to switch off my brains from unnecessary thoughts. It also helps me focus only on the moment of alleviating my anxiety.  When I color, it reminds me of my younger days where life was simple and happiness was just ordinary.

Here’s my imperfect and unfinished coloring work for the past few months. Honestly, I was able to calm my anxiety.  The patterns of my negative thinking restored to positive ones. I know, I might need it again for the coming days and I have lots of them waiting to paint and ease my angst.

You can try it too. Calm your stress with beautiful colors.

 

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THE COURAGE TO BE ME.

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Recently, I have to ask myself what kind of person I have been presenting to this world. Why I feel that I’ve been completely misjudged?  Have I failed to show the real me? Have they found out that I am holding on to each little atom in my system to appear the world that I am tough, that they can’t break me? and for that reason, have they thought of me like raindrops dripping on a stone that eventually dries up?

But I am not always like that. See, I have my high and low moment.

You might think at every turn I am strong, but I have been quite vulnerable.

I cannot stop to believe, that the world I live in only cares about what it can get from me.

I function like I am fighting on, but there were instances that I want to leave off.

Sometimes, I hate the sound of time and responsibility, it wears me down.

I always laugh and smile, but in a grey, cold day, I cried a lot.

While surrounded with people, I still find some empty faces that I couldn’t trust.

I ruled my mind of being okay to be alone, but deep inside, I despise the winding lanes of desolation, afraid where the future can take me.

I never followed all my dreams, never leads the way, and here I am pretending as an example whom you aim to be.

Look, never assume that I can accept everything you implied because now and then I can be close-minded, intolerant, impatient, selfish and plainly insensible.

Don’t be blind for what you see on me because I have so many names and at the mercy of the whim you will never understand me.

I am telling you this with sincerity, I have no time to play your silly games and just wouldn’t dance with your pretense.  I can be your friend today and might be your enemy someday. I cannot promise to stay forever because I know myself I have the tendency to walk away. But if you hold on to me, I will do the same.

Every day, I am literally trying to hold on, to what it means. I have all the courage in this word to be me, so don’t judge me easily, you might just know my name, but not my whole story.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

GOOD FOOD, GOOD MOOD

I am not good at cooking.  When someone says that I lose weight, I always tell them to eat what I cooked, then you can understand.  If you want to visit my place, I would ask you to bring something to eat or expect I will just call for delivery.  I can cook, but have no confidence to serve it to other people with my limited skills as if I have one.

I recall, when my family criticized my cooking, I got mad and pledge not to make food anymore.  Eventually, their criticism doesn’t affect me anymore, I have learned to take it. And of course, they accepted and devoured my own taste and style of cooking in their system. In short, they just have no choice. Seldom, I got compliments too, it’s called improvement.

Actually, I’m feeling starving today and there’s nothing special in the fridge to cook. I just have eggs and Paratha.  While scrolling my photo gallery, I saw all this mouthwatering food that instantly I wanted to eat. But hey, I didn’t cook all these, my friends do.

This is BULALO. It’s a dish with a light colored soup that is made by cooking beef shanks and marrow bones until the collagen and fat have melted into the clear broth. This is best on cool nights or on rainy days.

 

GRAB the CRAB. Steamed, baked or with oyster sauce, it’s all the same; tasty and delicious. They said this seafood supplies key vitamins and minerals that support good health, but of course, there should be only an amount of serving. Too much love will kill you.

 

Oh, my KINILAW! as one of my favorites. This a raw fish dish of (Tuna/Marlin). It is prepared to make raw cubed fish mixed with vinegar along with a calamansi or lime. It is flavored with salt and spices like black pepper, ginger, onions, and chili peppers commonly siling labuyo along with cucumber. I’m always feeling hyped when this is the food on the table. Also, it is best served along with cold beer.

 

I choose PANCIT or NOODLES over spaghetti. Yes, I can eat it any time of the day- lunch, dinner, snacks and even for breakfast.  This dish is always present in any celebrations I have. It is also believed that eating noodles will bless us with a long lasting life ahead. Well, without any reason, I just love this dish.

 

FRIED CALAMARI. My friends don’t want to make this food regularly because they said, it takes too much of their time preparing. You have to clean it,  sliced into rings, dredge the squid in flour then dip in beaten egg, etc etc. I usually cook it in adobo style which is easier for me.

 

PAKSIW NA ISDA. I hated this dish when I was young, maybe because I don’t like the taste from the vinegar, salt, garlic, and ginger.  There’s a joke that this food is common for poor Filipinos which is not really true. Paksiw Na Isda is very tasty especially if you will cook it with eggplant.

 

TANDOORI CHICKEN. This dish is very popular for Indians, but as a Pinoy, I till love this food especially if it is grilled to perfection.

 

I should stop this. I need to eat at least one of this dishes today. Happy eating everyone! Always remember GOOD FOOD, GOOD MOOD.

 

RAINDROPS WILL STOP FALLING

I know that day seems all went wrong.

For you, it was a sudden and thorny condition to be acknowledged. That’s how this life appears to be; straight and suddenly throwing you curve balls and getting you into a string of pieces.  I know you are terrified, we are. Cancer is horrifying.

But we know you are strong and filled with so much faith. We believe that everything will end very fine. I don’t know how to comfort you in words, but never forget that you are always within our prayers. God will hear us and will never abandon you.

I will be keeping fingers crossed for your successful and speedy recovery. The thought that you will be much better after this trial is very comforting to all of us.

Until then, don’t fall in there.

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IT FEELS HEAVENLY

Nothing happens in a week. I don’t mean it literally like there is lacking important events in my life. What I mean is, everything sorts of in total stasis.

There is this getting up early, and the showering, the taste of coffee and going to work. There is also after five, and the train to home, the dinner, the chatting, the bed to sleep and the rising in the next day.

This may sound a little bit repetitive, but I don’t mind at all. Who am I to complain my life when there are so many out there who are lacking what I have? It may look like n ordinary days, but I have learned to enjoy it. I always used to appreciate the normal progress of my life, and that I have concluded, though I am more becoming a dull person, I think it will be okay.

I will try to make the best of my life from what I have because it feels light, and it feels heavenly at times.

Happy Sunday to all!

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PERFECTLY IMPERFECT

“One of the luckiest things that can happen to you in life is,

I think, to have a happy childhood.”

That is me. I had a happy childhood which I always look back to with fond memories.

Even though I was fully aware of our financial struggles at that time, with our parent’s disagreements, siblings arguments and when I couldn’t have the things I wanted, this sort of things never stops me from becoming a normal happy person. Why? because my parents allowed me to fill my childhood memories with excitement, adventure, challenges and a lot of time to play despite their shortcomings and lapses.

I have so many precious memories of my childhood; outdoors in the dark with moonlight seeing, climbing high up the trees, riding bikes in the streets, making wood guns, street games, hide and seek with friends, digging holes at the beach, jumping in the waves, summer spent in the countryside, reading pocket novels, infatuation, and some church activities. In those years, a lot to said about how good life was.

And now getting old makes me yearn for the simplicity of life. I want to feel that every new day is more interesting than the last. I want to turn back time as a child when I have only to believed that nothing was impossible, that small things seem big of importance. When all my fears just fade away, and only the cuts from my knees getting me pain.  I want to remember the joy with which my mother’s touch gave me tranquility or my father’s beautiful kiss on my cheek.

I wish “I could take a single childhood memory and blow it up into a bubble and live inside it forever.”

 

 

SHE BANGS

I know you used to see me in my long and straight hair.  The time I started to dye my hair, you commented that black is still better than light brown.

When I cut my hair short, you flattered me.

After I cut my front hair to full bangs, you told me I looked like an alien, seriously? I should have felt offended, but to my relief, I did not.  It seems that I have annoyed you of my new hairstyle, sorry for that, but why do you hate my bangs?

I think it’s not all about my hairstyle. Maybe you hate my guts and the way I anticipated changes. The fact that I am not anxious about the circumstances made you think I am silly and careless. Oh please, it’s just a hair.

There is always an ample room for improvement and of course, we need to get out from our comfort zone to achieve it.  If changing something for yourself leads you to open the door for transformation, then why to hesitate.

Change is constant and “the only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”

Yes, let’s dance my friend, she bangs, she bangs, oh baby when she moves, she moves..

 

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SHADES OF GRAY

For the last couple of weeks, I have swallowed in astonishment of my own conflict between my reason and emotion. I simply thought I was living in the life where black and white clarity is well defined.  I assumed that I can insist something from my limited perspective of what is really happening around.

I know it is uncomplicated to identify what is wrong and right, I was taught by that since I was born,  but then I realized that we are all living in shades of gray.  It’s not always black and white, right and wrong, good or bad, just like there were two sides to every story and the truth was probably somewhere in between the two.

I don’t want to perplex myself anymore thinking what it really is. It’s just like we are looking at the same thing but means something different. I want to believe that some part of this world fall on shades of gray because, in every situation, there is always something hard to explain, acceptance, though it is not that simple to do, it is one of the ways to pull yourself out from distortion of confusion.

If going back to the roads means I have to believe in circumstances, then I must be, because I want to live my life in black and white and lots of grays.

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SEOUL GARDEN DUBAI

This is not a paid advertisement.

If happens you are in Dubai and you want to go to an authentic Korean restaurant, well,  I recommend this place, Seoul Garden Dubai Restaurant. It was clean, with the decent price, the Korean foods are lovely and the taste was unexpectedly better.

The serving is huge which is good for sharing, the ambiance is quiet and there is a room for privacy.  You may choose to sit on a chair or experience sitting on the floor in partitioned rooms too.

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My stomach needs a hug.

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Kamsahamnida for the good food!

 

TYPES OF HOUSEMATES I CAME ACROSS.

There are no perfect housemates. For nine years of living here in Dubai, going here and there from different flats and been with different kinds of people, my life has never been that easy.  It certainly tests the level of my patience and defies my endurance to survive.

Having a housemate not related to you was fun and quite annoying, tiring but challenging and the same time it gives you experience, friendship, and learning. Based on my experience, here are the types of housemates I came across.

THE NOISY ONE.  A kind of housemate who doesn’t care if someone is sleeping or having a rest as long as they can do whatever they want like they wouldn’t stop talking or playing music aloud. They love to disturb anyone.

THE DIRTY FREAK.  Oh, a lot of them!  Someone who left the dishes and pots on the sink, and never clean the house even though there is a house cleaning schedule. Always ignoring the piles of garbage and never initiates to clean their surroundings. They are someone who acts like they have a maid.

THE PLANNER.  The mind of the whole household.  This will make your stay fun and exciting. They usually organize your getaway, parties or any other activities inside and outside your household.

THE THEFT.  Someone who has a thick face. They will take your food in the fridge, your shampoo, toothpaste, water and much worse, your money. Never leave your important things unsecured.

THE CHEF. I love to have a chef housemate. They will not only prepare food for themselves, but they love to share it with their housemates.

THE GHOST.  They are the ones you feel never existed in the house. They never complain, they just do their works. They stay at the house, eat, sleep and just leave anytime they want to without saying goodbye to everyone. You’re never sure of the whereabouts of this housemate.

THE GOSSIPER. This is the person I definitely do not want to be a housemate. They will try to know everybody else business. They are truly a pain in the ass.

THE BULLY. Someone who has nothing better to do than to torment their housemates in any chance they can.  Tips, at the moment they’ll try to mess around, never give them the liberty to do it -again.

THE BUYER. This is common to some expat. Since the sale is always on the go here in Dubai, people tend to buy dozens of things but will send them to their home country after 6 months or more. This will consume the space of the shared room and it becomes untidy.

THE PARTY ANIMAL. This is very common in all the flats I have stayed. You’ll often hear this person complaining about their hangover all the time, but still, they never missed out every single day to party.

THE NOCTURNAL. This is me your housemate. Usually, on weekends, I stay all day in my bed. At night I became active. That’s the time I clean my bed, do the laundry, doing this and some sort of things that normal people can do in the daytime.

Coming from different backgrounds and upbringing, we are always bound to meet all kinds of personality when we live together under one roof, for very reasons we must need to prepare ourselves. Don’t worry, you might get used to it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

AJMAN, UAE

Ajman is the smallest of the seven emirates of the United Arab Emirates. It’s located on the Arabian Gulf coast of the northern part of the UAE. Approximately 95% of the population of the Emirate resides in the city of Ajman, possibly because it’s away from the hustle and bustle of the larger Emirates like Dubai and Abu Dhabi.

Ajman’s quite scenery
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It was 39 °C with 53% humidity.
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Ajman is near to the ports of neighboring Emirates. This was taken from the Fish Market.

We booked Ewan Tower Hotel Apartment which was more affordable. What I liked in this 3-star hotel is the huge space in the living room, good enough if you are in a big group and for a party held. I think the room is sound proof too, at least no one was complaining when we are loud. It was a very comfortable place to stay.

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And of course, everything will be memorable if you spend the day with good friends.

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Since the temperature of that day was super hot, we decided to stay only at the hotel. But in case, if you want to visit Ajman, here are the fun things to do and best places to go.

  1. Ajman Museum
  2. Ajman Dhow Building Yard
  3. Beaches
  4. Mowaihat archaeological site
  5. Hajar Mountain towns of Manama and Masfut
  6. Sheikh Zayed Mosque Ajman
  7. The forts and Castle
  8. Corniche
  9. Ajman City Centre

LATER, WHEN I COOL DOWN.

We all experienced anger. If some words tossed out with annoyance, it would flare up the temper. It is impossible also to clear the issue when we are in the midst of an emotional tornado.

I’ve been there, I regret few of what I have said.  I have learned my lesson, let me strike the iron when it is cold.

 

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Eid al-Adha Celebration

It’s holiday!

We will leave the busy and hustle street in Dubai right now in celebration with our Muslim’s festival, the Eid al-Adha.  We are heading to one of the seven Emirates States of the UAE, Ajman.  I might share something about it after my returns.

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What is Eid al-Adha? 

“It is called the “Sacrifice Feast” where it honors the willingness of Ibrahim (Abraham) to sacrifice his son, Ishmael, as an act of obedience to God’s command. Before he sacrificed his son God intervened by sending his angel Jibra’il (Gabriel), who then put a sheep in his son’s place. In commemoration of this, an animal is sacrificed and divided into three parts: the family retains one-third of the share; another third is given to relatives, friends, and neighbors; and the remaining third is given to the poor and needy”

I haven’t celebrated this festivity with a Muslim friend so I cannot share anything about it. But I would like to greet our fellow friends to have a wonderful celebration and may all our prayers be answered with Allah.

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NAKED TRUTH

“I am still learning how to separate myself from people who aren’t on the same page as me.”

Honestly, this is not simple. There are things to contemplate before letting go of yourself to someone. It is not like someone ask you to give them space, I think that would be easier for me, but I am the only one who wants to detach myself from people that I cannot get along with anymore.

Actually, nothing really happens badly that I would think of this way, but I woke up one day that I could see the difference.  You know, like when you don’t have any more to talk about and laugh. Unlike before when you were just sitting together, it doesn’t matter if you do have a conversation or not, the sense of comfort was still there. And I’m feeling the contrary now.

So I am starting to separate myself from them. Hoping one day they will ask why and I can tell them the naked truth.

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LOYALTY

When my cat came to my life, it teaches me about love and patience, but when she departed, it gives me the loss. She's never been replaced with a new cat ever.

I think, she trained me about loyalty.