“A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.”
“You’ve got to really be able to accept the rejection”
everything will be fine.
I would admit I never had friends who were born with a silver spoon in their mouth, most of them strive hard to have a better life. I have heard a lot of story from them; the struggle of their families, Parent’s separation, financial crisis and more.
Let me share with you my favorite story from my favorite friend, Joseph.
When Joseph father died from a heart attack, his mother made a huge effort of keeping their family unbroken. She became a single parent who needs to work double time just to sustain their needs; house rent, food, school expenses and for everyday living. Joseph’s father died without saving anything, but only memories and debt.
Joseph never forgets those hard days when they were kicked out several times from their home because they could no longer pay the rent, many days they don’t have the electricity and just eat their meals once or twice a day. They even lived in a squatter area where they never dream of; a small house with no furniture wherein your bedroom is your living room and dining too.
It was a rainy season while Joseph and his family shared their lunch together only with a bread and champorado (rice combined with cocoa powder) when they heard a knock from the door. Wondering who would it be, they immediately open it. They saw wet and fainted four people begging for food. Joseph looked at his mother, waiting if she would invite them in and share the food that wouldn’t be enough for seven people. He wanted them to push away, but he knows he couldn’t do it. He knows exactly how it feels when you were cast away at your lowest time.
His mother was the kindest person he ever looked up to. She lets them in and shared their meals. She gave the champorado to their visitors and they just eat the bread. Who would think it would be enough? Joseph and his sister never complained the act of kindness they have seen from their mother, there was a joy that you can be able to help despite of having not enough and the gratefulness when receiving kindness from others without expecting anything in return.
Her name is Ima. She’s the most impolite employee I have ever encountered in 15 years of my life working. I tried not to mind her over the past months, but oh my!. I thought it’s only me who notice of her character, but it seems not. Well, I don’t want to judge her really, but let me reckon all the things I don’t like about her.
She didn’t greet another employee she met in the hallway (except for the bosses).
She doesn’t have the habit to say “excuse me” and tends to interrupt you even when you’re talking to someone or on the phone (except for the bosses).
She keeps other people waiting, which makes these people annoyed with her.
She never showed up during our team building & annual party.
She never interacts with other employees (except for the bosses).
When I was new, she didn’t help me to learn everything I am supposed to know.
She undisclosed her work to me as if we are not a team.
She treated me a newbie, and that is so funny.
Maybe this is not considered as a hot potato. But I am talking here about character and attitude. I am certain of her character because it surfaces through her actions, and I couldn’t do anything about it. But I just wish she’ll improve her attitude because attitude is a choice. To have a good character, you should have the right values; being well-mannered, pleasant and professional is one of them.
Honestly, I don’t like my character when I’m pissed off, I have the tendency to make you cry, I have done that before. But, I choose not to be anymore. I pick to be patient, more patient in dealing with different circumstances. I didn’t “yet” insulted her, nor hit her hard, but in due time, I will let her know those things I don’t like about her.
The Backyard Poet
Writer of adult inspirational books and the children's book series, "Dr. Peacock and Friends"
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