KICK THE GAME OF LIFE.

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When my son asked my permission to join the Taekwondo team which I ranted from my previous post. Never as I insisted, but well, that’s not what had happened.

One of our fellow bloggers mentioned that it’s better for him to get hurt in a tournament rather than in a street brawl, I couldn’t agree more. So here he comes, he was included in the school match and you know what? he got the bronze!

I don’t have any expectation from him since it was his first match. I just kept on reminding him to be strong, competitive and be a good sport. When he told me he got only the third place, I assured him that he was good enough. Not all the first timer will achieve something like that. In response, he wants to practice more, and I agreed. 

Of course, I am proud of him and I love his spirit. I love the way he insisted to do what he likes, something that I didn’t do when I was at his age. But then, not everything he wants will be in front of him; not all the games he can win and not all the time, he can lose.

I know both of us have a long way to go.  Parenting is an endless job for me and he still has to learn how to play the game of life. 

Congratulations on your first kick son. The full support is in me now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TYPES OF HOUSEMATES I CAME ACROSS.

There are no perfect housemates. For nine years of living here in Dubai, going here and there from different flats and been with different kinds of people, my life has never been that easy.  It certainly tests the level of my patience and defies my endurance to survive.

Having a housemate not related to you was fun and quite annoying, tiring but challenging and the same time it gives you experience, friendship, and learning. Based on my experience, here are the types of housemates I came across.

THE NOISY ONE.  A kind of housemate who doesn’t care if someone is sleeping or having a rest as long as they can do whatever they want like they wouldn’t stop talking or playing music aloud. They love to disturb anyone.

THE DIRTY FREAK.  Oh, a lot of them!  Someone who left the dishes and pots on the sink, and never clean the house even though there is a house cleaning schedule. Always ignoring the piles of garbage and never initiates to clean their surroundings. They are someone who acts like they have a maid.

THE PLANNER.  The mind of the whole household.  This will make your stay fun and exciting. They usually organize your getaway, parties or any other activities inside and outside your household.

THE THEFT.  Someone who has a thick face. They will take your food in the fridge, your shampoo, toothpaste, water and much worse, your money. Never leave your important things unsecured.

THE CHEF. I love to have a chef housemate. They will not only prepare food for themselves, but they love to share it with their housemates.

THE GHOST.  They are the ones you feel never existed in the house. They never complain, they just do their works. They stay at the house, eat, sleep and just leave anytime they want to without saying goodbye to everyone. You’re never sure of the whereabouts of this housemate.

THE GOSSIPER. This is the person I definitely do not want to be a housemate. They will try to know everybody else business. They are truly a pain in the ass.

THE BULLY. Someone who has nothing better to do than to torment their housemates in any chance they can.  Tips, at the moment they’ll try to mess around, never give them the liberty to do it -again.

THE BUYER. This is common to some expat. Since the sale is always on the go here in Dubai, people tend to buy dozens of things but will send them to their home country after 6 months or more. This will consume the space of the shared room and it becomes untidy.

THE PARTY ANIMAL. This is very common in all the flats I have stayed. You’ll often hear this person complaining about their hangover all the time, but still, they never missed out every single day to party.

THE NOCTURNAL. This is me your housemate. Usually, on weekends, I stay all day in my bed. At night I became active. That’s the time I clean my bed, do the laundry, doing this and some sort of things that normal people can do in the daytime.

Coming from different backgrounds and upbringing, we are always bound to meet all kinds of personality when we live together under one roof, for very reasons we must need to prepare ourselves. Don’t worry, you might get used to it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MOTHER OF THE YEAR

They said grandparents have the tendency to spoil their grandchildren, their love becomes twice and they will love you more than anyone else.  But for my Lola (grandmother), she does the opposite and has her own ways of showing her love by imposing strict discipline.

She taught me how to pray, not my mom, but her. We prayed the holy rosary every night and sometimes at dawn which I really hated. There was no Sunday too that we didn’t go to church, whether you like it or not.

It was a struggle also that I am not allowed to wake up after 6:00 am.  She gave me the responsibility to prepare for breakfast, clean the house, do the laundry and water the plants.

I can have friends, but they were not allowed to visit at home without her permission. She has to check first their background before saying yes, and of course no boys obviously.

I had all these memories when I live with her for more than a year and during summer vacations.

My Lola was a woman of discipline because she was raised and influenced by Spanish upbringing which we called Kastila style. She has dominating character and very authoritarian. More over, my grandfather was intimated with her intellectual and cleverness, even her five children feared her to the most.

But I know, despite, she has the greatest love for all. She always thinks of her children’s wellness. She worked hard to support their education and chased them to graduate. She always reminded them to live a decent life and be released from poverty.  Simply she doesn’t want the children to be like her; unschooled and deprived.

When my Lola died, everyone was settled and lead a good life. They even bought her a house which she really desired. When she got sick and became more grumpy due to her goiter illness, still everyone braced her not for the reason they were afraid, but because she was a good mother.

I think I am her favorite granddaughter because she always appears in my dreams. She still there asking me to clean her house, water the plants and for no reason, lectured me which I rarely remember why.

Today is my Lola’s birthday. May she has the happiest party in heaven.

 

She was awarded “A MODEL MOTHER OF THE YEAR 1997” in the town of Bacuag Surigao Del Norte. A lifetime achievement, perhaps, one in a million mothers could achieve. – VJE

 

 

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My brother from the left, grandma, grandpa and myself.

 

THROUGH THE EYES OF A CHILD

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We experienced life through the eyes of a child, everything would be magical and extraordinary. Let our curiosity, adventure, and wonder of life never end.

Akiane Kramarik

CONSTRUCT YOUR WORK

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When you’re complaining about your work while sitting in the office or just feeling bored, Just think of those people who worked outside tolerating the heat and dusty surroundings.

Don’t you think you are lucky than them?

Don’t you appreciate what you have right now?

Construct your thoughts and think about it – again.

YOU WILL MISS THEM

I know one day, you will miss them.

You’re going to miss their deafening loudness and innocence hassles and the peak of their dirty shirts and countless toys.

You will miss them in your room while hanging out, watching you dress and crying out loud.

Soon you will miss them when they grow up and you get the break you want.

You will miss them needing you all the time because they’ll find comforts with friends or other people whom they liked.

You’re going to miss everything because when they own their freedom, you didn’t own their time.

So while still possible, enjoy their childhood and bear the hardship. Never say “hope you will grow up fast” because surely, one day, you will miss them, you will miss your little ones.

 

 

 

YES, I DO!

Someone proposed to me!

I don’t know why this kid suddenly grab the plastic flowers and kneel down in front of me. I was smiling and said yes, I do. I bet he was watching some TV drama and tend to imitate it. Ha-ha. He was so cute. I told him to kneel down for a while so I can take pictures for our cute memory and he listened.

Ahjussi

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“I have an Ahjussi.

When I see the Ahjussi, I’d feel… how do I describe the feeling?

Like a warm blanket, like the morning sun.

You know what I mean?

And someone else is… a little hated but still okay.

His personality is very annoying, but he’s not a bad person.

Sometimes I like him, but sometimes I don’t.”

He is a good friend, I can never ask for more.

FRENEMIES

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Be careful with this kind of scam.  People pretending to be your friend, people making you believe that they are the ones who is available all the time, people who delight in your miseries, use you for whatever you can give them, people who seems there to help you, but the truth is,  they just like to gossip about you. They are called FRENEMIES.

I believed that life is too short to be surrounded with people who don’t really care about us, and if you discover that you have frenemies, deal and put it in perspective and move on. There are too many good people in the world to waste spending your time on the ones who aren’t.

Time Will Come

New York is 3 hrs ahead of California but it does not mean that California is slow, or that New York is fast. Both are  working based on their own “Time Zone.”

Someone is still single. Someone got married and waited 10 yrs before having a child, there is another who had a baby within a year of marriage.

Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before securing a good job; and there is another who graduated at 27 and secured employment immediately.

Someone became CEO at 25 and died at 50 while another became a CEO at 50 and lived to 90 years.

Everyone works based on their ‘Time Zone’.

People can have things worked out only according to their pace. You just have to work in your “time zone”.

Your Colleagues, friends, younger ones might “seem” to go ahead of you. Maybe some might “seem” behind you.

Don’t envy them or mock them, it’s their ‘Time Zone.’  You are in yours!

Hold on, be strong, and stay true to yourself. All things shall work together for your good. You’re not late. You are not early. You are very much On time.”

 

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She said “YES”

She said “yes” and I was happy.

I met Weng four years ago.  I was the one who interviewed and recommended her to be my junior.  What I like about her was not from her curriculum vitae, but the way she presented herself to learn and willingness to be a great help.  I’m pretty sure that’s more important than a degree.

Anyway, our relationship was more than a senior and junior thing. We became friends outside and allies at work. I have known almost of her secrets and handle them with indulgence, though I was a little bit cautious of my own, but later, I have learned to trust her.

Weng have entered into a complicated love affair. I was there to listen and disagree, but then I found myself comforting her all along. It’s always been my intention to remind her not to waste her young life over unsecured relationship, but love is an uncontrollable beast, who would listen when you are selfish enough of your feelings?

Surely she has gone into a lot of hardship than happiness. She was walking beheaded from gossip, more controversy as I expected and silent eyes out of sympathy she suffered from others.  I asked her when it would end, and she replied me after she’ll get tired of everything.

After the rain pours and the storm has beaten, she finally let go. After the flowers withered and died, another one blossomed with sweet scents.

She finally found someone who flutters air and sea just to be with her. Someone who really doesn’t care of what she have done in her past. Someone who can offer her a life of good possibilities.

She’s getting married!

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I know she was happy and thrilled for her new life, and so I am.

She gave us message that a true and intimate prayer will lead you to the right way, to the right people and the right decision.

Cheers!!

Out of love

I love my mom,

Though we always fought,
Disagree of many things,
Always beat me to humiliate,
Weaken me to accept my mistake.

I still love my mom,

Despite of my feeble hatred,
when I was young.
The feelings of not being adored,
when she mumbled hurtful words.

I love my mom,

What I have realized behind,
so many reasons I think about.
The argue, the scold, the spank
it was out of love and not her lack.

 

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Art of War

“If your enemy is secure at all points, be prepared for him.

If he is in superior strength, evade him.

If your opponent is temperamental, seek to irritate him.

Pretend to be weak, that he may grow arrogant.

If he is taking his ease, give him no rest.

If his forces are united, separate them.

If sovereign and subject are in accord, put division between them.

Attack him where he is unprepared, appear where you are not expected .”

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Sun Tzu, The Art of War