NOTE TO SELF

Judge yourself. That is the most difficult thing of all. It is much more difficult to judge oneself than to judge others. If you succeed in judging yourself rightly, then you are indeed a man of true wisdom. – Little Prince

It’s one of the best quotes I have ever read in the book of Little Prince. From that moment, I knew these words will serve as a guide. Every day, I faced with diverse people with different opinions, cultures, beliefs, and even religions. Because of this, I may tend to judge people as if I know them deeper.

With this quote, it helps me to remember to judge myself first with honestly before seeing the fault of others. We are not allowed to trample others existence, but to understand them and to be understood.

I am not perfect. I judged other people. I never liked some of them and sometimes pretending to like them. I am not certainly a woman of true wisdom, but I can learn, control and can follow what is right and not.

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Mommy, respect me.

My 14 year old son begged me not to force him to join in one of the school activities that his teacher and grandmother asked him to participate. He was on the verge of desperation, as if I am the last person who would save him that whatever my decision would be, he has no choice, but to follow it.

I appreciated that, despite our long distance situation, I am still in the picture that he still comes to me not only in times of delight, but more importantly in his needs of someone to understand him. Back to the story, I asked him a lot of questions regarding his issue, to be honest there was nothing wrong about it, I might convince him too to participate, but I chose not.

I told him I would not force him to do what he doesn’t like as long as it will not affect his grades and performance at school.  I will respect his decision as much as possible too.  He was relieved, then calls me the best mom ever.

What struck me most was the last message he sent me before saying goodbye, he said, “It was right that children should respect their Parents, but Parents  should respect their children too.”

Wow. I stopped for a while. He was aware now that RESPECT is a too way street.

Yes, it is a challenge for me to step back a little while staying connected to this grown-up kid because I know one day he will be determined to live his life in his own way and, probably I will be needing more understanding too that “we are alike, not  in personality or character, but as a person.”

He was seven years old in this picture, never thought he would grew so fast.

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